It’s been a long, emotional semester. I moved six hundred miles away from my family, I went from walking around a high school to walking around Manhattan, and I started college at one of the largest private universities in the United States of America (and the world).
These four months have been a learning experience. So here are some of the lessons I’ve gathered.
1.) Adults aren’t always right.
Adults have just as many stakes in life as you do. They will play angles, they will be immature, they will cut corners, and they will not hesitate to take you down with them. If you threaten them, if you question them, you better learn how to defend yourself.
2.) Family is the most important thing.
I spent so long pushing my family away and running after this big-shot career. I thought I needed to be here to do it. But the truth is, I can make my own career – anywhere I want.
3.) You can’t run away from your past.
When I came out here, I thought I had something to prove to the people who hurt me. I thought that I was getting away, starting a new life. But the reality is, you don’t get to just walk away from your past. You have to cry. You have to face it.
4.) Some things are worth fighting for.
Your innocence, your heart, your abstinence (from whatever you choose to abstain from), are yours and yours alone. Don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise.
5.) Classes are only as important as you make them.
You don’t have to love your class, but you do have to recognize the importance of passing.
6.) College is not about grade-grubbing.
You don’t always have to worry about getting perfect grades. You’ll get Bs rather than As, you won’t get a perfect 4.0, you’ll have to fight to stand out in class. College isn’t easy. If it was, everyone would do it.
7.) Skipping class isn’t always a bad thing.
You know better than anyone when you need to go to class and when you don’t. If you can make better use of your time, I highly suggest it. In many classes, your professor won’t even notice you’re missing. And, in other classes, your professor will understand an absence or two. Your health, rest, and mental stability are irreplaceable.
8.) You have to make difficult decisions as an adult. Make ones that you’re going to be able to live with.
Sometimes the right thing to do is not the easy thing to do. Don’t screw it up.
This has been a rough semester for me, but it’s also been an experience that I’ll never forget. Thanks for following me on this journey. I’m excited to see what next semester brings.